What is the goal of parenting?

To raise children who become self-sufficient adults who are decent human beings. Self-sufficient meaning they can manage their own emotions, provide for their own needs, and live in mutually beneficial relationships with others.

This article covers 10 things you are doing that are hurting your ability to lead your kids to success.

You have probably heard the advice to control what you can control. 

The advice might be followed with a suggestion, which is to write down the list of things on your mind and then to identify the subset of that list that you can control.

The list of things you can control is always considerably smaller than the totality of everything on your mind.  But there is a higher form of control that you should be striving for.

It’s as if to say if you can’t control it, you shouldn’t worry about it. A renewed mind paired with self-control habits leads to success in more circumstances and the ability to truly control what you can control, which is yourself. #self-control #selfcontrol #mindset #habits

So, the true gateway to increased productivity and greater success is to stop living in fear. 10 things you can do to make the most of your 24 daily hours. #productivity, #discipline, #lifehacks 

Taking the mindset of giving 100% of all you have, especially when it is less than 100% you have to give, helps avoid procrastination and creates forward movement. You will be surprised how good it feels to accomplish small things when you start from a place of believing you can’t accomplish anything. This article talks about how to do it. #habits #momentum #impact #forward

Truly successful people are achieving a definition of success that they develop for themselves, and they are intentional about the way they achieve and measure success. Truly succession people are filled with joy, not regret. Truly successful people aren’t comparing their success against others because they don’t care; they know success can’t be measured in comparison to others only through comparing today’s version of you to yesterdays.

Perfection is a myth. Perfection doesn’t exist. Chasing it is like looking for Bigfoot. It may seem like a fantastic idea because should you achieve perfection (or find Bigfoot), you’ll get lots of recognition. But the reality is no one ever finds Bigfoot, just like no human has ever achieved perfection. All searching for perfection (or Bigfoot) produces is wasted energy, wasted time, and disappointment. The better alternative is delivering impact through significant enough outputs followed by iterative adjustments towards even better outcomes.  Here are five reasons you keep chasing perfection. #success #changemanagement #progress

Boundaries are helpful for healthy relationships and safe cattle farming. Be sure to establish, communicate, and maintain your boundaries, so they achieve their intended objective. Remember, if your boundaries are too strong, you will eventually keep everyone out. The goal of boundaries isn’t to keep people out; it is to maintain health and mutually beneficial relationships. #personalboundaries #healthrelationships #farmlife #personalleadership

Don't stop looking for ways to sprinkle the small things into your work and personal life. They really do make other people smile. But do these things in such a way that the initial smile doesn’t quickly and permanently fade into a frown because your attempt at a small thing isn’t done well. Three things you can do to get the small things right. #customerservice #service

Taking the time to reflect will lead to a better life. Here is encouragement to reflect and a path towards making it worth it.

We need to find people who can point out our blind spots in an effective way. Here is what to look for. 

In a perfect world, you wouldn’t need to run any kind of experiments. It would be a world without regret. You would already know everything necessary to have an amazing lasting relationship. But the world isn’t perfect. Intentional experiments are how you learn to thrive in romantic relationships while enjoying the journey. #relationships #datingexperiments #healthyrelationships

You don’t need to solve every problem you encounter, which is good because you literally can’t. Your resources have limits, so you must learn how to manage them wisely, and sometimes that means ignoring the windchime. The decision to live with the occasional noise it creates is more responsible than devoting resources to quieting something when there are minimal returns on creating the silence.

Wisdom is deciding not to make a decision based on whether or not to pursue something new based solely on the initial cost. Everything worth doing requires an initial investment. Some of those costs might even cause you to reconsider if it is worth it.

Here is a process to help you determine if it is worth. 

Fear and excitement are really close emotionally and during times of change there are a few things you can do to take control of how you emotionally react to change. Choosing excitement over fear and increasing the chances for finding joy during times of change.

We all choose to mute things. How might choosing to mute the outside world be harming your relationships and why you should care about it. #healthyrelationships #parenting #communication #effectiveliving

We all get frustrated. We don’t all get past it well. Getting to I am frustrated because helps move past the frustration more quickly. Here are five sources of frustration and what you can do to get beyond them.

The goal of sharing truth or engaging in conflict with someone in your personal community should be to improve the relationship and encourage the other person to consider if a change is best for them and your relationship.

This type of honest dialogue, when done appropriately, creates deep connection. Deep connection creates long term mutually beneficial relationships capable of withstanding difficulty.

Follow this model to help you improve the quality of your interactions over subjects that might cause conflict.